Why "thoughts outside the cha cha"

Okay, so someone asked me what "outside the cha cha" meant.

When I was relatively young, the gay bar in my home town was a few steps above a dive. Well, it was not too bad, but it was not the nicest bar in town, either. We called it the White Avenue Danceteria (jokinginly) or the "cha cha".

I found it much more interesting to hang out with the people that usually collected on the sidewalk across the street from the bar. On any given night, a bunch of us would hang out across the street on the sidewalk or in the parking lot. It was a lot more fun than going inside. We could talk story, hang out, and, of course, diss the people going in that we did not like.

Much of my early life, I was an outsider. Even when I acknowledged being gay and starting going to the bars, I prefered being "outside". Still do, I guess.

So, that is "thoughts from outside the cha cha". I always prefer looking at things from an outsider's perspective.